Help with my identity crisis?

I'm a 53 year old white middle cl woman. I raised 3 children as a single mother, worked all my life. I've lived my life without wanting or needing any interference from the powers that be. Now, all of a sudden, just because I disagree with Pres. Obama's policies, I've learned that not only am I a racist, but an evil mongering fascist as well. I'm confused, as I have never, to my knowledge, exhibited these qualities. I don't know how I'm supposed to act now. Is there some sort of self help book out there like "Fascism for Dummies" that will help me modify my behavior in order to fit in to the lifestyle that I've been labeled with?